Dr Phil McGraw

Pain is the price you pay for resisting life.

You need to face the pain and the fear and walk through the Grief.

Not everybody is some kind of media model.

Relationships are truly like a garden, if you tend it, water it, weed it and feed it, it will grow into a beautiful garden. If you only go out there every few weeks to look it over for a few moments, what do you think it’s going to look like in a few months? It’s going to be a weed patch. It will disappear.

People who have nothing to hide, hide nothing. You should be an open book, be transparent.

Its a choice. You just have to decide that I’m not going to put my energy there. I’m going to decide to let this go. It’s your choice. You can embrace it, you can become a prisoner of bitterness and resentment anger and victim city, or you can just say ‘I’m going to live my life and be happy’.

We’re so afraid of each other… Colour, wealth, these things that don’t really matter still play too much of a role in how we see one another. And it’s sad, because the thing that least defines us is the colour of our skin.

The pain of parting is nothing to the joy of meeting again.

The best stories don’t come from ‘good vs. bad’ but ‘good vs. good.’

I have lived too long to cherish many illusions about the essential high-mindedness of men when brought into stark confrontation with the issue of control over their security, and their property interests.

Have a heart that never hardens, and a temper that never tires, and a touch that never hurts.

If we had more justice there would be less need of charity.

The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance.

I have opinions of my own, strong opinions, but I don’t always agree with them.

Better to write for yourself and have no public, than to write for the public and have no self.

I don’t want to get to the end of my life and find that I lived just the length of it. I want to have lived the width of it as well.

Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward.

If you become a teacher, by your pupils you’ll be taught.

If you go into a union, they have got you, but what have you got?

There have been times when I’ve been around people I wouldn’t care to be around, and if I could get away I would. We have a word in Mississippi – we just don’t seem to set horses. In other words, this person is always saying something that gets your goat, y’understand? But when people treat you mean, you dislike them for that, but not because of their person, who they are. I was born and raised in a segregated society, but when I left there I had nobody I disliked other than the people that’d mistreated me, and that only lasted for as long as they were mistreating me.

This is the real secret of life – to be completely engaged with what you are doing in the here and now. And instead of calling it work, realize it is play.