Dr Phil McGraw

Never put more in a relationship than you can afford to lose.

Common sense needs to be more common.

Not everybody is some kind of media model.

There is no reality, only perception.

A man can’t ‘just be friends’ with another woman. Period.

If you’ve gone into a marriage and you haven’t been clear about how you’re going to handle money, how you want to raise kids, who is going to work or stay home or what have you, then you’ve set yourself up for failure.

I think men are afraid to be with a successful woman, because we are terribly strong, we know what we want and we are not fragile enough.

You don’t have to love everything a person does to love that person.

True friends stab you in the front.

Be honest, brutally honest. That is what’s going to maintain relationships.

We walked to meet each other up at the time of our love and then we have been irresistibly drifting in different directions, and there’s no altering that.

I don’t know where to find a good guy. I just think that they’re around and I think you have to be good and at some point you’ll attract that. I really believe that. First, people should stop looking. The looking thing does not work. Just let love find you.

The only other person who has a clue about what this is, the good, the bad, is your partner.

There has never been a merging of two lives where significant problems of daily living did not occur. One way or another, your relationship is going to be affected. The only question is how. There’s a big difference between knowing and doing. It’s not what happens between partners that determines the outcome of a relationship, it’s how they handle what happens. If all you deal with in your relationship is problems, then you will have a problem relationship. If you want your pound of flesh with full acknowledgement that you’re right, your future will be dim.

I like a woman who takes care of herself – it says something about the way she’ll care for me.

A lover cannot be chosen a la smorgasbord. A lover has to be chosen from soul-craving. To choose just because something mouthwatering stands before you will never satisfy the hunger of the soul-self. And that is what the intuition is for; it is the direct messenger of the soul.

Breaking up is a natural evolution when you try to figure out what you want in life. If you’re with an individual who isn’t moving in the same direction and at the same rate that you are, it ain’t going to work.

I think careful cooking is love, don’t you? The loveliest thing you can cook for someone who’s close to you is about as nice a Valentine as you can give.

Men fall in love with their eyes. Women fall in love with their ears.

I married the first man I ever kissed. When I tell this to my children, they just about throw up.

I was lucky I always got along with girls. It was never like a big deal. I had a lot of girls that I was friends with that I wasn’t sexual with. I think having two older sisters made me comfortable like that. I just like people, so I can just go up and say whatever.